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Liz K's avatar

It's me, your Emotional Support Listener with kids in their 20s and I promise you, nothing is ending; it is just changing. Our "traditions" over the years ebb and flow, and it is really ok for things to fade out and new things to arise. Releasing your attachment to your family traditions is a gift to your children as they age because it frees them from any resentment that comes with feeling obligated. Also, it gives you space to decide how *you* want to observe the holiday season in your new chapter without feeling the pressure of making it magical or passing on traditions to your kids. You might find it hard to believe, but your relationship to all these traditions might change as your own season of life shifts. So now, all I care about is time spent together. I don't really care when or how it happens.

With that said, my favorite thing is Tuba Christmas! Imagine hundreds of amateur/professional musicians form a big-ass brass orchestra and play the jolliest tunes of their giant instruments. It's a delight! We attend every year in Center City Philadelphia, but there are Tuba Christmas events all over the country.

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Jill's avatar

A tradition in our family that started when they were little that my kids do still seem to enjoy is picking a house in our town that has a Christmas or holiday lights/display that delights you. And we each write a letter to that family thanking them for the time and effort it took for them to create that display for us to enjoy. And then we drive around together and drop off our letters.

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