Coming back to this thread to say that these comments gave me the freedom to call a cleaning company. Like Sarah, my head is loud if things aren’t pretty clean, and I spent 3.5 hours this past Saturday (a beautiful fall day) scrubbing! No more! Called a local friend, got a rec, and they came out for the first time this morning. It’s honestly cheaper than I thought; why didn’t I do this a long time ago??
As someone with four kids who also has professional cleaning done every two weeks, I echo the, “they are beloved members of my family,” sentiment. Denilza has been with us for enough years and we exchange Christmas presents. My kids know Miss Denilza, the dog knows Miss Denilza. Miss Denilza is often, in fact, my FAVORITE family member because she is the only other person that seems to give a shit about the condition of our home but also don’t seem to judge me for the unreturned Amazon boxes that she sweeps around for literal weeks
Relevant to this convo: I am endlessly fascinated that Myka Stauffer was run off the internet after the "An Update on our Family" video where she and her huband disclosed that they had unadopted their son Huxley, but her husband James still has a pretty successful Youtube channel where he cleans dirty cars. We do love a before and after UNLESS its a woman who has been deemed a bad mom.
We irregularly have a cleaning lady clean our house. I grew up with a lady coming, but wouldn't say our house was particularly clean. Not my mom's fault, my dad would be a hoarder on his own with zero cleaning skills and my brothers were not helpful. Today, my husband is a clean freak and I love a clean house but don't know how to fit regular deep cleaning into my schedule (I work for myself). Ideally we would have the cleaning lady come 2x a month.
My question for you folks who have cleaning ladies, how do you instill cleaning habits in your kids if there's someone else cleaning? This is my husband's concern. For my part, I think picking up regularly is important, and making sure the kids know how to clean toilets, mop, etc is also important. I just would rather not spend our rare free time cleaning, especially since it gets my husband so agitated if everyone isn't cleaning as urgently as he is, lol.
Yeah-I still have my kids do dishes, wipe and clean their bathroom, do their laundry, and pick up their rooms. I think if kids can do all of this, they are on their way to being independent people who can clean their own homes.
lol @ me with a chandelier in my laundry room. My fluorescent light ballast was bad and I had to replace it, so I put up a chandelier in its place. It makes me happy 🤷🏻♀️
Did you all listen to the NPR with the Nobel peace prize winner? She really did dedicate it to Trump and believe she’s helping her work and I feel so confused! 😩
I did. I think it’s also important to remember that she just received a prize that Trump has made absolutely no secret he wants and believes he has earned many times over. He could easily retaliate against her and she’s already in hiding from Maduro. She’s having to walk a very fine line, and I think we saw that when she was being asked about bombing the drug boats.
I’m struggling to understand why we feel any more hopeful about this cease fire agreement than other attempts in the past. Can someone who shares Sarah & Beth’s optimism explain what they’re seeing that I may be missing?
I want to keep it nuanced, as Ms. Stewart-Holland encourages me everyday.
1. I celebrate the end of this and any other war. From before, during, and after Oct 7. We should be beyond carnage and wanton destruction.
2. Keeping, torturing, and killing hostages, specially civilians is evil that escapes my ability to fathom. I really short circuit and my brains go on a blank funk.
3. So anyone that has done anything toward ending this I thank. Regardless of their motives, which I ignore, it’s an objective good to end this war.
4. Those with more power should do more every time to stop these things. They should do it out of a moral social contract among nations where unrestricted violence is not an answer. Lack of accountability or repercussions for the aggressor either. Like the mafia has it families respond to the Commission. They exist because feuds among families is bad for business. War is bad for the business of humanity of existing, thriving, expressing. So those with larger power have a bigger responsibility, by the Uncle Ben principle.
5. I dislike the machinations of resorts and luxury constructions in the aftermath. It feels like well, the riff-raff is gone and this beach side land is much to pretty for the masters of the universe not to have and profit from. Therefore, I deduct points to Jared et. al. credit.
6. Lastly, massive shout out to activists all over focused on live for everyone not just one side. Among them, Ms. Rachel, my beloved coparent, has stayed strong despite all the hatred she brought on herself by advocating for Palestinian children together with the Israelis one.
7. Just so I don’t end on six, a third of the number of the beast
I’m here for moderation in all things. I have cleaned an overflow drain exactly once… because there was a smell coming from that sink that I was desperate to get rid of. Otherwise… why???
Loved the conversation with the congressman- it felt like he was actually engaged and open to being curious and answering questions. I loved that he was immediately complimentary of Massey’s work with him. It felt like maybe not the only plan Dems need but it was certainly A PLAN! That wasn’t about playing the game of who can be the worst- but of how can we work together on these individual issues and like persuade people. It was refreshing.
I fell for an “It’s so easy to clean between your oven door windows” reel and it took me me, my husband, and our neighbor to get it screwed back together and it’s never been right since. Don’t do it!
We messed up the oven glass when I insisted on taking it out for a deep clean, and I wasn’t even watching this videos! I just got a wild hare and harassed my husband until he helped me. I regret this choice. I couldn’t even get it as sparkling clean as I wanted to either! 😩
I was a better parent with a housekeeper. When I didn't have one, our house was just dirty and messy. Now that my kids are grown and out of the house, I have time to clean and things just don't get as dirty. Only cleaned the walls, before painting or moving in our out or maybe if one was particularly gross from kids.
I'm currently watching one of my DYI insta accounts transition into a diet/exercise account. You can only remodel your home so many times. And when you've bought a home and your husband has quit his job based on the income from your insta videos - you have to keep those views and clicks going. I am completely fascinated by the fact that we've built an entire economy on this.
What we have to show for it over the past 10 years is growing Christian nationalism. Christians are absolutely celebrating all of this. Watching Kirk lionized and Christian nationalism on the rise especially among our youth. The Christian Evangelicals view all of this as winning! I think while we are wringing our hands and shaking our heads, Christian nationalism is growing and Christian’s are celebrating! That is my observation as I see Christian merch on the rise and selling a bastardized version of Christianity to our youth. As I reflect it reminds me of how this same thing happened to genx in the late 90s and early aughts. Neo Calvinism and “hipster Christianity” all it really did was steal people who were already Christians but not really “committed” to their faith and bring them into the “reformed cool Christian church” which promoted patriarchy but also tattoos gambling and swearing. It’s happening again. It’s making Christianity look super cool and appealing and enticing for your men (especially but also women) but it’s the same misogynistic problematic version just repackaged and even more terrifying as it is so closely tied to government and white supremacy. But if I’m being honest that has been the case for a long time as well. Sorry I’m gonna leave this “rant” here because it actually helped me process through my own fears for my children and that I actually fell into a similar world for a long time and am now very far out of it. “Nothing is new under the sun” ☀️
I just finished Shiny Happy People which did a nice job explaining the 90’s cool christiandom with Christian Nationalism today- I’m thankful that my evangelicalism was like not as many layers in deep- it has still been A LOT to untangle but not Teen Mania/Duggar level
The cleanliness obsession has gone too far- it lives in my head with all the comments about cooking accounts not wearing gloves while they cook in their own home!
I will say the trash can cleaning is a welcome addition- walking our sidewalks on trash day is an… exeperience, so I wish more would take advantage!
I wear gloves for chopping hot peppers like jalapeños because otherwise the heat from the peppers will irritate my skin. Oh and I sometimes wear gloves when washing dishes to keep my hands from drying out.
Coming back to this thread to say that these comments gave me the freedom to call a cleaning company. Like Sarah, my head is loud if things aren’t pretty clean, and I spent 3.5 hours this past Saturday (a beautiful fall day) scrubbing! No more! Called a local friend, got a rec, and they came out for the first time this morning. It’s honestly cheaper than I thought; why didn’t I do this a long time ago??
As someone with four kids who also has professional cleaning done every two weeks, I echo the, “they are beloved members of my family,” sentiment. Denilza has been with us for enough years and we exchange Christmas presents. My kids know Miss Denilza, the dog knows Miss Denilza. Miss Denilza is often, in fact, my FAVORITE family member because she is the only other person that seems to give a shit about the condition of our home but also don’t seem to judge me for the unreturned Amazon boxes that she sweeps around for literal weeks
Relevant to this convo: I am endlessly fascinated that Myka Stauffer was run off the internet after the "An Update on our Family" video where she and her huband disclosed that they had unadopted their son Huxley, but her husband James still has a pretty successful Youtube channel where he cleans dirty cars. We do love a before and after UNLESS its a woman who has been deemed a bad mom.
We irregularly have a cleaning lady clean our house. I grew up with a lady coming, but wouldn't say our house was particularly clean. Not my mom's fault, my dad would be a hoarder on his own with zero cleaning skills and my brothers were not helpful. Today, my husband is a clean freak and I love a clean house but don't know how to fit regular deep cleaning into my schedule (I work for myself). Ideally we would have the cleaning lady come 2x a month.
My question for you folks who have cleaning ladies, how do you instill cleaning habits in your kids if there's someone else cleaning? This is my husband's concern. For my part, I think picking up regularly is important, and making sure the kids know how to clean toilets, mop, etc is also important. I just would rather not spend our rare free time cleaning, especially since it gets my husband so agitated if everyone isn't cleaning as urgently as he is, lol.
Yeah-I still have my kids do dishes, wipe and clean their bathroom, do their laundry, and pick up their rooms. I think if kids can do all of this, they are on their way to being independent people who can clean their own homes.
lol @ me with a chandelier in my laundry room. My fluorescent light ballast was bad and I had to replace it, so I put up a chandelier in its place. It makes me happy 🤷🏻♀️
I would like to put Sarah’s comment “It’s hard to be a human in 2025” on a tee shirt. I would wear it on repeat.
Did you all listen to the NPR with the Nobel peace prize winner? She really did dedicate it to Trump and believe she’s helping her work and I feel so confused! 😩
I did. I think it’s also important to remember that she just received a prize that Trump has made absolutely no secret he wants and believes he has earned many times over. He could easily retaliate against her and she’s already in hiding from Maduro. She’s having to walk a very fine line, and I think we saw that when she was being asked about bombing the drug boats.
That makes sense! Thanks for making that connection
My understanding is that they have a shared goal of getting rid of Maduro.
I’m struggling to understand why we feel any more hopeful about this cease fire agreement than other attempts in the past. Can someone who shares Sarah & Beth’s optimism explain what they’re seeing that I may be missing?
I want to keep it nuanced, as Ms. Stewart-Holland encourages me everyday.
1. I celebrate the end of this and any other war. From before, during, and after Oct 7. We should be beyond carnage and wanton destruction.
2. Keeping, torturing, and killing hostages, specially civilians is evil that escapes my ability to fathom. I really short circuit and my brains go on a blank funk.
3. So anyone that has done anything toward ending this I thank. Regardless of their motives, which I ignore, it’s an objective good to end this war.
4. Those with more power should do more every time to stop these things. They should do it out of a moral social contract among nations where unrestricted violence is not an answer. Lack of accountability or repercussions for the aggressor either. Like the mafia has it families respond to the Commission. They exist because feuds among families is bad for business. War is bad for the business of humanity of existing, thriving, expressing. So those with larger power have a bigger responsibility, by the Uncle Ben principle.
5. I dislike the machinations of resorts and luxury constructions in the aftermath. It feels like well, the riff-raff is gone and this beach side land is much to pretty for the masters of the universe not to have and profit from. Therefore, I deduct points to Jared et. al. credit.
6. Lastly, massive shout out to activists all over focused on live for everyone not just one side. Among them, Ms. Rachel, my beloved coparent, has stayed strong despite all the hatred she brought on herself by advocating for Palestinian children together with the Israelis one.
7. Just so I don’t end on six, a third of the number of the beast
I’m here for moderation in all things. I have cleaned an overflow drain exactly once… because there was a smell coming from that sink that I was desperate to get rid of. Otherwise… why???
Loved the conversation with the congressman- it felt like he was actually engaged and open to being curious and answering questions. I loved that he was immediately complimentary of Massey’s work with him. It felt like maybe not the only plan Dems need but it was certainly A PLAN! That wasn’t about playing the game of who can be the worst- but of how can we work together on these individual issues and like persuade people. It was refreshing.
I fell for an “It’s so easy to clean between your oven door windows” reel and it took me me, my husband, and our neighbor to get it screwed back together and it’s never been right since. Don’t do it!
We messed up the oven glass when I insisted on taking it out for a deep clean, and I wasn’t even watching this videos! I just got a wild hare and harassed my husband until he helped me. I regret this choice. I couldn’t even get it as sparkling clean as I wanted to either! 😩
Haha exactly. It’s still dirty and now I worry it will fall apart.
Yeah, half the time I break things when I try to do extreme cleaning!
I was a better parent with a housekeeper. When I didn't have one, our house was just dirty and messy. Now that my kids are grown and out of the house, I have time to clean and things just don't get as dirty. Only cleaned the walls, before painting or moving in our out or maybe if one was particularly gross from kids.
I'm currently watching one of my DYI insta accounts transition into a diet/exercise account. You can only remodel your home so many times. And when you've bought a home and your husband has quit his job based on the income from your insta videos - you have to keep those views and clicks going. I am completely fascinated by the fact that we've built an entire economy on this.
Or you can just keep buying houses like Chris Loves Julia. It drives me CRAZY
lol. I think I know who you are talking about.
What we have to show for it over the past 10 years is growing Christian nationalism. Christians are absolutely celebrating all of this. Watching Kirk lionized and Christian nationalism on the rise especially among our youth. The Christian Evangelicals view all of this as winning! I think while we are wringing our hands and shaking our heads, Christian nationalism is growing and Christian’s are celebrating! That is my observation as I see Christian merch on the rise and selling a bastardized version of Christianity to our youth. As I reflect it reminds me of how this same thing happened to genx in the late 90s and early aughts. Neo Calvinism and “hipster Christianity” all it really did was steal people who were already Christians but not really “committed” to their faith and bring them into the “reformed cool Christian church” which promoted patriarchy but also tattoos gambling and swearing. It’s happening again. It’s making Christianity look super cool and appealing and enticing for your men (especially but also women) but it’s the same misogynistic problematic version just repackaged and even more terrifying as it is so closely tied to government and white supremacy. But if I’m being honest that has been the case for a long time as well. Sorry I’m gonna leave this “rant” here because it actually helped me process through my own fears for my children and that I actually fell into a similar world for a long time and am now very far out of it. “Nothing is new under the sun” ☀️
I just finished Shiny Happy People which did a nice job explaining the 90’s cool christiandom with Christian Nationalism today- I’m thankful that my evangelicalism was like not as many layers in deep- it has still been A LOT to untangle but not Teen Mania/Duggar level
The cleanliness obsession has gone too far- it lives in my head with all the comments about cooking accounts not wearing gloves while they cook in their own home!
I will say the trash can cleaning is a welcome addition- walking our sidewalks on trash day is an… exeperience, so I wish more would take advantage!
What do you mean wearing gloves!?
Comments on cooking videos insisting the preparer should be wearing gloves when they touch any food.
Bananas
The only time I would consider wearing gloves in my own house while cooking is to keep my hands from smelling like garlic and onions for 4 days
I wear gloves for chopping hot peppers like jalapeños because otherwise the heat from the peppers will irritate my skin. Oh and I sometimes wear gloves when washing dishes to keep my hands from drying out.
But I don’t wear gloves usually either!